Ms. JG of Pasig thinks her boyfriend is only after sex. Her boyfriend is demanding more and more fucking as days go by. She’s asking for tips on how to find out if she’s correct.
I had earlier written a two part-blog on this topic. With your permission, boys and girls, let’s try to help out Ms. JG, and remind all you ladies out there, with these excerpts:
More often than not, he talks about sex. He always injects sex into your conversation, even though it’s unrelated to the topic.
Your boyfriend threatens to break up with you if you won’t give in to his lust, while battering you with the cliché “Kung talagang mahal mo ko, papayag ka sa gusto ko (If you really love me, you’ll make love to me).”
After the first time, he CATEGORICALLY DEMANDS for sex when he’s hot, regardless of your condition or mood or priorities for the day.
For him, all your dates must end up in bed, and there had better be one hell of a reason for him to agree to a postponement.
If there’s no assurance, or possibility, that your date will end in a fuck, you’ll need a miracle to make him agree to go out. Worse, he’ll ask you to take along somebody else instead.
If you refuse his sexual demand, he’s not available or capable of anything else for the rest of the day and suddenly remembers he has something to do or attend to.
He’s colder than ice or more irritable than a pre-menopausal lady in the days following your rejection of his fuck request.
He first asks if you’re alone before he goes to your home.
He wants a schedule of when you’re alone at home, or the days when everybody else in the family will be on holiday or out-of-town trips and will be gone for days.
Even if you say you’re dead tired from work or school, or have something to finish, he’d rather try to turn you on first before asking you what’s up.
He starts getting colder and colder after the first, second or third sexual encounter.
The time he spends with you is getting shorter and shorter. From being his top priority before, he’d rather now be with his gang first than be with you.
His paglalambing (sweetness) – holding your hand, putting an arm around you, giving you a hug every now and then – is vanishing faster than crushed ice.
He has resumed socializing with women without informing you.
Most of all, you’ll start getting word from friends that he has been disowning you as his sweetheart whenever he meets someone new or flirts with other women.
Bottom line, ladies: The moment you see even one of these signs in your man after going to bed with him, confront him. If he can’t give a convincing justification, BREAK OFF with him.
As I’ve written in one of my earliest blogs, in love follow your heart, but use your head.
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