PRETTY AND SEXY BUT NO BF, NO SUITORS1

A pretty physician I know has just surprised me with her unexpected request for advice -- how can she attract guys.

She’s in her mid 30s, sexy and tall but is still single. She has had a boyfriend only once, during college, and nobody is even courting her now.

I gave her the following excerpts from my earlier blog on how o attract a man’s attention.

First and foremost, talk like a woman.

Speak softly (but make sure it’s audible) and sweetly whenever you get the chance to talk to him, personally or on the phone.

Speak naturally, no ‘pa-cute’ stuff.  No street or gutter language and talk with sense. In case you’re with a guy but could not  understand or are not familiar with what he’s saying, it’s perfectly alright to ask for clarification.

Men are attracted to honest and candid girls, women who are what they are.  Hypocrites and pretenders are among the biggest turn-offs for guys.

As you talk like a woman, act like a woman.

From the way you walk to how you carry yourself, like the clothes you wear, be sure that you’ll be a complete woman (or babaeng-babae as we say in Pilipino)  from all angles.

In trying to look beautiful don’t overdo yourself, like applying excessive make-up to the point that you’ll look more like a prostitute than an ordinary decent woman.

Learn more about proper behavior or social graces for women when with men. If you have to, browse the Internet, buy books or magazines or ask for tips from friends, preferably older than you.

NEVER BE VULGAR OR INDECENT in any manner whatsoever.

DON’T EVEN THINK of attracting the guy’s attention with sexually provocative clothes or language.

The guy will be drawn to you, yes. But trust me, it will be for LUST and not ADMIRATION. He will approach you only for a possible quick and easy fuck, and not because you’re too beautiful to ignore.

Men will always go for RESPECTABLE and DECENT, even though ordinary-looking, women than pretty but VULGAR and foul-mouthed ladies.

And most of all, be CIVIL not only to your special guy but to everyone.

Never speak ill of others, especially if you’ll only base it on rumors or hearsay. Your common friends or people who know you will be the ones to put in a good word or two about you to him.

And believe me, girls who know how to BEHAVE properly are always a winner for men. Promise. 30