Wednesday, July 27, 2011

SET A LIMIT TO ACCEPTING AN APOLOGY!

I got a couple of reactions from  our earlier blog on saying ‘sorry’ emphasizing that is not enough to keep a relationship going.

Let me elaborate, boys and girls.

I agree to that 101 percent. Admitting and apologizing for your mistake is just part of an affair. But as I’ve said, it can determine what rules you, HUMILITY OR PRIDE.

One of the biggest turn ons, and turn offs, for anyone in a relationship.

That’s why I am for a VERY SHORT LIMITATION to accepting an apology. As an old saying goes, ONCE IS ENOUGH, two is too much.

If your partner really loves you, he or she will make it a point not to hurt you again with the same mistake. If it happens again, CALL IT QUITS and file for annulment or divorce depending on where you live.

Remember that friend of mine from London whom I cited as an example in our earlier blog? She revealed that her husband never admitted a mistake, or apologized for one, in the 15 years of their marriage.

Keep this in mind, guys: A person who takes pleasure in hurting his or her partner, physically or emotionally, is a SADIST. Find out for yourself from your psychiatrist how DANGEROUS can this kind of person be.

 So if your partner says ‘sorry’ after a mistake and you accept it, be sure you’ll carry on the relationship as it has always been, as if NOTHING HAD HAPPENED.

Otherwise, if you start appreciating your partner’s efforts to make up HALF-HEARTEDLY, and allow DISTRUST to dictate your every decision in continuing the relationship, it’s you who will be MOST UNFAIR.

And will eventually KILL the relationship, not your partner.

Don’t tell me you would prefer a partner who doesn’t trust you over one who does. You’re in BIG MENTAL TROUBLE if you do.

To minimize, if not immediately rule out, FOOLISH PRIDE in a relationship. TALK THINGS OVER even before you say ‘I love you” to each other.

More of that in future blogs. 30

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