WHEN IT'S LUST, NOT LOVE!

This is a repost as requested by a friend just 15 minutes ago.

A female former subordinate of mine has just asked my opinion on how can she tell if her boyfriend is only after sex or is sincerely for her love and affection.

I gave her a few tell-tale signs. And these apply not only for single ladies but also for married, two-timing women.

First and FOREMOST, when the guy starts asking for sex MORE OFTEN than simply spending sweet private moments with you, or worse if he sets sex as a pre-condition for anything you want, he just wants to FEAST on your bumpers and your ‘private garden’ for as long as he could.

Second, if he wants to record your sexual encounters on video every time and anywhere you do it.

That means he doesn’t respect your privacy and dignity as a woman. What makes me say so? Consider this: If the guy really loves you, HE WOULDN’T DO ANYTHING that could possibly shame or humiliate you in the eyes of other people.

Don’t tell me you haven’t heard of porn stuff being circulated through mobile phones. If you readily believed that he’s doing it only for his personal and private amusement, you’re nothing less than a SUCKER, much as I hate to say it.

And what physical, rock-solid guarantee can he give you that nobody else will see the video except him?

Third, if your guy French-kisses you as if the world will end the next day even if you’ve only been apart for several hours, or worse, if he licks your ears and neck or caresses your body IN PUBLIC, especially in broad daylight, and gives the flimsy excuse that there’s no problem because you’re in his car or in a secluded corner of the office.

Fourth, if he insists on sex or even some heavy petting even if you’re not feeling well or rushing to finish something for school or for the office.

Fifth, if he GETS MAD and raises hell whenever you reject his sexual advances or requests, and would not even listen to your reason as he slams the door or bangs the phone hard enough to give you an  instant headache as you start hearing a ring tone in your ears.

If you ladies are in any of these situations, GET OUT if you still have some SANITY and self-respect left In you.

Your guy DOESN’T LOVE YOU! You’re not his lover, you’re his SEX TOY! Sex is a part of Love, but Love is not Sex. Keep this in mind, girls: If your partner REALLY LOVES YOU, it’s what you like, what you want or what you need that comes first (that is assuming it’s not illegal or immoral or detrimental to anybody). Not what he wants. 30