Two personal friends of mine, one from Paranaque whom I’ll call Jane, and the other from Binan in Laguna whom I’ll call Vera, are both working mothers and still living with their husbands, who also both work.
But here’s the catch -- Up to now, they’re still not sure if their kids can enjoy even a very modest NOCHE BUENA.
You know why? Their husbands DON’T GIVE A DAMN.
Jane had bluntly told her husband weeks earlier that they don’t have any savings left, as in none, for Noche Buena. He said he’ll see what he can do.
But Jane told me right before I wrote this blog that he hasn’t done anything, as in NOTHING, yet.
Vera, who’s a rank-and-file government employee, asked for noche buena money from her husband. You know what he said? He doesn’t have money because he has had a lot of PERSONAL EXPENSES lately.
Take note, people, PERSONAL, NOT FAMILY EXPENSES.
I felt my blood pressure shoot up to my head, boys and girls. I’m also a guy but my immediate reaction was “WHAT KIND OF ANIMALS are these?”
Even if we’re in a season of love and forgiving, this degree of INSENSITIVITY, especially since kids will also be affected, is UNFORGIVABLE for me.
These husbands are NOT REAL MEN! These bastards are ATHEIST GAYS and USERS WITHOUT BALLS.
They turn their backs on their RESPONSIBILITIES and assume the position of the wife, who shouldn’t be worrying about finances.
They don’t give a shit if their kids will suffer. They conveniently leave the headache to Jane and Vera.
That’s why the only suggestion I gave to my friends is to SEPARATE A.S.A.P. from their husbands, brutal as it may seem. Or at the very least, start RECONSIDERING VERY SERIOUSLY their marriage.
They’ve been going through this ordeal for years already.
To those in the same situation as Vera and Jane, start asking your parents, brothers or sisters, relatives or even friends for help.
It won’t be easy, I agree. But having a decent Noche Buena will at least minimize whatever pain and self-pity they will feel, while keeping the Christmas spirit in their hearts.
After the holidays, start saving on your own and begin orienting the kids to the real personality of your husband and its effects on your family.
That is if you won’t separate from him yet. The longer you delay, the more painful it will be in the future, believe me. 30
will separation solves the existing problem?
ReplyDeletefrom what i know of the cases, tacaher, yes. there are other details which i just did not include since it's too personal already. tnx for commenting. merry x'mas.
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