IT'S TIME TO QUIT IF ...

One of our readers, whom I’ll call Leny of Manila, has fallen out of love with her husband and is already struggling just to endure his abuses.

But she hasn’t separated from him, yet, because their kids are still too young. She’s asking if she’s doing the right thing.

When a relationship or marriage is already doing more harm than good, or will do more harm than good as days pass, to either one of the partners or the kids if any, it’s time to call it quits.

I’m not an advocate for separation. I’ll be all out to save a relationship whenever I could. But an unwritten rule in EVERY relationship, and I mean no exceptions, is it has to be a two-way affair.

Anybody correct me if I’m wrong but there’s no law or word of God which says even if one is in a hellish life or on the brink of insanity, he or she can’t get out of an affair or marriage.

Saving a relationship or marriage as much as you can is perfectly alright.

But if your partner doesn’t want to save it, regardless of whatever you do, then the only alternative left is for you to go.  You will have to accept the reality that like cancer, there’s no more cure for it.

It won’t be easy, yes. But the longer you tolerate it, believe me the TOUGHER and MORE PAINFUL it will be, both for you and the kids if there are any, when you finally do so in the future.

Kids need their fathers in their growing-up years, yes.

But if they see you fighting more often than not, or ignoring each other as if  both of you don’t exist, DON’T EXPECT the to GROW UP PROPERLY.

They will be CONFUSED and PSYCHOLOGICALLY and EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE. So don’t be shocked if this instability results to unlawful or immoral acts as they get older.

When that happens, not having separated from your husband or partner and explaining the situation to the children early on will be the mistake you’ll regret for the rest of your life.

The only justification I know for continued but unnecessary suffering is psychological instability. No offense meant to anybody. Preventing this will only be up to you.

Sometimes, reality is very difficult to accept. But there’s no other choice for us but to MOVE ON with our lives. I had written an earlier blog on when only must one sacrifice for love. Check it out.

One thing I’ll assure you, for every sorrow, happiness follows. Just have Faith. Leave everything to God!  30