SPEAK UP, TO AVOID QUARRELS!

Here’s one simple way to avoid lovers’ quarrels: SPEAK UP if you have to!

If you’re upset over something that your lover has done, say so IMMEDIATELY! Do it as calm as you can, and privately as much as possible.

Say EVERYTHING you want to say. Explain your disappointment clearly. But be sure to listen to your lover’s side too. As I often say, a relationship must always be two-way.

If your lover’s explanation is valid, ACCEPT IT unconditionally!

If you’re confused over your lover’s actions or words, ask for a clarification at once. Point out specifically what you don’t understand and ask for a detailed explanation.  

If you’re disappointed over anything, as in anything, voice it out and explain to your lover why.

Don’t be shy to suggest or recommend what you think will improve the situation, or make him or her a better person. It’s your right, and one of the best manifestations you can make to prove your love.

But as I’ve also written before, you must respect your lover’s limitations if your disappointment is due to it.

Whatever the scenario, speak up as often as necessary.

Your lover may just have forgotten your sentiments because of his or her job, or schoolwork or problems within the family.

You have to take this to consideration, at least initially.

If your sweetheart or spouse really loves you, he or she will listen and act at once. But hey, don’t expect overnight results, especially if your lament (for example, vices) could not be undone in one click.

If your lover won’t listen, that only means he or she doesn’t really love you.

In that case, stop wasting your time, and emotions. Move on and find true happiness. 

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