Friday, December 16, 2011

3 SECRETS TO A LASTING RELATIONSHIP!

Here are three very simple but often overlooked secrets to a lasting love affair.

First and foremost, stick to the rules, or dos and don’ts you have agreed upon when you started out, to the letter. And I mean unconditionally.

If you want exceptions or plan to disregard any, be sure to discuss it first with your partner and better have a rock-solid explanation ready.
Explain first before you disobey, to avoid misconceptions by either one of you.

And not the other way around, which would be disregarded as a disrespect at the very least by your partner.

Second, be FAITHFUL, INSIDE AND OUT!

As I had written in our blog “How to keep your lover’s trust,” inform your partner of anything and everything he or she must know, especially new and/or persistent admirers.

To avoid quarrels, the two of you can discuss and agree right from the start what each other considers infidelity.

For example, a friendly hug or kiss on the cheek means nothing to the broadminded and educated. But to the semi or unschooled, it’s proof of an illicit affair by the other partner.

Keep in mind whatever forms of unfaithfulness you’ll agree upon and avoid them at the very first sign or opportunity, to help you remain faithful.

Third, RESPECT YOUR PARTNER, AND YOURSELF.

Whether you agree or not, respect his or her principles and decisions at all times. Unless these will lead to trouble or bigger problems, obey or give way.

Don’t force your partner to change his or her ways and line of thinking solely to your liking. As an old song by the Carpenters goes, you’ve got to love your partner for what he or she is, not what you want him or her to be.

Forcibly molding your partner to your desired image will mean nothing else than your non-acceptance of who he or she is.

Anybody who feels unacceptable to his or her partner would end the relationship as soon as possible, even if only to maintain dignity and self-respect.

For the truly in love, practicing these three secrets won’t be a problem. 30








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