Here’s a very simple way to tone down or minimize, if not remove, jealousy and reduce senseless lovers’ quarrels:
Just ask yourself two questions – What good will you get out of it and is there a reason for it?
We all know that jealousy is not always justified.
Some get jealous over an innocent stare by his or her lover at an attractive dude or chic. Some flare up at the mere mention by the partner of his or her ex when they’re together.
Others raise hell even over a lengthy friendly chat or casual sweetness by his or her partner with a member of the opposite sex. So before you react under these or other similar circumstances, ask yourself first “What good will it bring to me and to our affair?”
I’ll answer for you: NOTHING, AS IN NONE.
Instead, you and your lover will get into a misunderstanding or a spat. He or she will be unhappy, and eventually disappointed over your distrust.
The affair then gets shaky, and your partner will start entertaining thoughts about looking for a more understanding and rational lover.
In the end, YOU LOSE, and the not the object of your jealousy.
To avoid this, don’t be impulsive. Unless you see a VERY VALID REASON with your own eyes to be jealous, DON’T BE.
A reason as valid as your lover and the other person kissing torridly, in heavy petting or fucking; you being relegated to the background, if not totally ignored, while they talk of almost anything; your faults or imperfections being compared to the other person’s assets and virtues and your partner accepting and replying to calls or messages from the other person without your knowledge.
And all these apply to both former lovers or ‘friends’ of your sweetheart.
Other than these, don’t destroy the peace and harmony between you and your lover with senseless jealousy.
As I’ve written before, jealousy kills an affair.
Trust, peace and harmony preserves and strengthens the relationship to the altar, and throughout your lifetime. 30
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