One of the most common causes of lover’s quarrels is distrust.
The best, and simplest, way to avoid this is LEARN TO LISTEN to each other before making conclusions on any issue.
There will always be times when one of you will do something unexpectedly without having to ask permission first from your partner, since there’s nothing wrong about it.
Like having coffee with a friend whom you run into again after several years, buying an item in the mall which is too cheap to ignore or dropping by the church or the supermarket on your way home.
Try to understand first the reason behind the issue you and your partner are discussing about. If there’s nothing illegal or immoral, if your partner had not been unfaithful, then there’s nothing to argue about.
There will also be times when your partner will do something without explaining to you first, like going to the department store to buy your favorite CD or perfume to surprise you.
LOVE WITHOUT UNDERSTANDING ISN’T LOVE.
Understanding is the key to a TWO-WAY RELATIONSHIP, which is how any affair should UNCONDITIONALLY be.
If you’re not totally convinced by the explanation, check it out YOURSELF or consider all factors, like traffic or how reasonable was the time spent, before concluding anything.
But NEVER, EVER PREJUDGE your partner. No one wants to be called a liar, even by INSINUATION.
In loving, it’s either you trust your partner or you don’t. No ifs or buts. Even if the relationship is in the proverbial ‘second chance’ status.
Without trust, there will never be peace in your relationship.
Like what I’ve written before in an earlier blog, a relationship without trust isn’t a relationship. It’s a DICTATORSHIP. 30
It is all about TRUST. Great article Boyet.
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