One of our young readers, whom I’ll call MS. K, is confused about her boyfriend’s true intentions.
She says she had broken up with him several times but either the guy threatens to kill himself or runs to their mutual friends to beg for assistance until she takes him back.
But here’s the catch -- In good times, he had BLOCKED HER form his Facebook account NOT JUST ONCE, BUT TWICE.
For reasons thin enough for even a computer-literate grade school kid to find unbelievable. So MS. K is wondering if her boyfriend really loves her or not.
Without thinking, I replied DEFINITELY NOT. And I immediately added the guy only wants sex, or has not feasted on her body long enough to his satisfaction.
If your boyfriend or partner really loves you, girls, HE WILL NEVER HIDE anything from you.
If he doesn’t want you to see the people he’s interacting or socializing with, in Facebook or anywhere else, 99 percent he has another girl apart from you.
Or he’s courting or flirting with someone else.
Love is not love WITHOUT HONESTY. That’s UNCONDITIONAL and NON-NEGOTIABLE. If he really loves you, he will never fool you or conceal anything from you.
If he blocks you from anything, there’s definitely something unforgivable behind it and enough to make you break up with him pronto the moment you see it.
A guy who really loves you WILL NEVER HURT you.
But if he disrespects and treats you like a CRIMIINAL by blocking you from the people he moves around with, you’re not his lover as far as he’s concerned.
That’s EXPLOITATION. You’re not his lover. You’re just another girl whom he’ll treat the way he wants to anytime he feels like it.
And if he refuses a breakup, that could only mean HE HASN’T HAD ENOUGH yet of what he’s getting from you – sex, money, connections or influence, luxuries, you name it, he’s after it.
To prolong the relationship would be your BIGGEST MISTAKE. You’ll need nothing less than a psychiatrist.
What about the suicide threat? As actor Clint Eastwood said in one of his movies, “Go ahead, make my day.”
Remember this, girls: OPPORTUNISTS or USERS will never kill themselves. They wouldn’t want to miss opportunities. 30
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