Here are two quick ways to deal with rumors whenever these enter your relationship.
First, dare the informer to a confrontation with your lover over his or her allegations. Require the informer to bring physical and indisputable proof.
Not just his or her words. Solid and convincing evidence.
If the informer will refuse for whatever reason, or will counter there’s just has no evidence yet but he or she is telling the truth, then you’re wasting your time with a LIAR!
Now, if the informer will continue to harass you, challenge him or her to accompany you to wherever the issue or indiscretion or whatever is being committed.
If the informer refuses again, then stop talking, or even listening, to him or her for the rest of your life.
That person wants to kill your relationship with your lover. Maybe the informer wants to steal your sweetheart from you. Or he or she is envious of your status at the office or in school.
Or the informer is simply a mentally-sick individual who finds happiness in wrecking other people’s romantic relationships, in making lovers cry instead of happy.
As I’ve written in an earlier blog, conclude based on evidence, not on hearsay. Ask first before you accuse.
I knew of two lovers who had the time of their life in their relationship, as in loving and appreciating everything about each other, as the days went by.
Until one day, a woman who mistook the guy’s sweetness and friendly concern for something else began feeding lies and intrigues to the girl.
The girl immediately believed the intrigues and accused her guy of everything she can think of, without first asking for proof. Expectedly, the guy fought back.
Now, it’s all over for them. The girl confided to me that even in friendly chats, she feels a wall between her and the guy.
All because of rumors, or tsismis. 30
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