A reader who asked to be called only as Jamie of Quezon City has just been accepted to a job in London
But her rich businessman-boyfriend doesn’t want her to leave. He has pledged to marry her immediately and to shoulder all the expenses of her family. If she refuses, he’ll break up with her.
Before anything else, let me congratulate Jamie for looking, on her own volition, for an opportunity to provide a better life for her family.
That’s why I’ll say go on with your London
You’re doing the right thing in seeking financial independence for your loved ones. In a very simple way, you have shown that you’re not an opportunist.
Without saying a word, you’re proving to your boyfriend that you’re a strong-willed woman living by one of the most important values in life, love of family.
For this, you’re boyfriend should be VERY, VERY PROUD of you.
If he really loves you, he wouldn’t stand in the way of progress for your family. Instead, he should support you as much as he can to achieve that dream so that you can get married as soon as possible.
Your boyfriend’s refusal for you to leave is nothing less than a sign of INSECURITY, regardless of how he puts it. Insecurity is an indication of weak character which, UNCONDITIONALLY, is a ‘no-no’ FOR EVERY GUY.
You wouldn’t want a weakling for a lifetime partner, would you?
An alternative solution, Jamie, is for you to marry him first before you go. This should wipe out his doubts or fears of a long-distance relationship.
Not to mention the fact that he can afford to visit you to London
If your boyfriend still insists on you either stay put and marry him or it’s all over for the two of you, then you had better EVALUATE his character, and your relationship, ALL OVER AGAIN.
Consider this VERY CAREFULLY – If this early, he doesn’t respect or give a damn about your decisions , WHAT MORE will he do when you’re married and legally or morally, he will already have control over you? 30
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