HOW TO TURN DOWN A SUITOR!

A common problem women, both teens and adults, face every now and then in their lifetime is how to turn down a zealous suitor, effectively.

How to tell the guy you don’t love him and there’s nothing he cam hope for, and still be friends with an safe from him.

Here are some tips:

Tell him the real score IMMEDIATELY, as in ASAP. Prolonging his courtship will only give him FALSE HOPES and DELUSIONS that you’re just playing hard to get.

Worse, the guy might think you were a user or opportunist who entertained him only for t free lunch or dinner, or souvenirs and whatever favors he had helped you with.

Remember, there are sore losers who badmouth, or spread lies about the women they had courted after being rejected just to get even.

The age-old “Let’s just be good friends’ cliche is still one of the most effective ways in turning down a suitor girls. Believe me.

But deliver that fatal line as calm and as friendly as you can, as you look at him straight in the eye. You don’t have to explain why you don’t love him.

But to really complete the verdict, simply say you can’t feel anything for him despite everything he had done for you and it would be GORSSLY UNFAIR if you’ll play with his feelings.

And before I forget, be sure there’s another guy around ---  your dad, brother, relative or a close friend – when you tell him you can’t be lovers.

You can never tell how the guy will react.  

A spurned suitor who’s head over hells in love with the girl is capable of doing anything, especially if he had spent a lot of time, effort and money on the courtship.

If the guy took the rejection normally, stick to your word that you will be friends.

Be civil and cordial with him. Continue to take his calls or replying to his harmless text messages. Help him in any way you can if he asks for your assistance.

But start limiting the frequency of all these. Also, stop accepting any gift from him. This will again give him false hopes.

And most of all, DON’T GO OUT with him anymore. Even if it’s only for coffee or snacks just meters away form your place or office.

There have been cases of spurned suitors who kidnapped the girl of their dreams using innocent invites as a technique. 30