IT'S RESPONSIBILITY, NOT GOOD LOOKS, THAT COUNTS!

Here’s a reminder to you ladies when it comes to guys and relationships:

Don’t just go for good looks or thick wallets in choosing your lover. Look for a man who’s responsible enough to carry out his role in a relationship, or better yet a future partnership

A man who takes you home from the office or school, or from wherever you’ll be, especially if it’s late at night and a typhoon’s raging or your location’s a known risky area.

If he has to, he will wait for you without complaints or questions.

On your way home, he’s always on the danger side and you on the safe side when you’re crossing the street or walking on a sidewalk or alley.

When you’re sick, he’s beside you as often and as long as possible. He doesn’t mind buying your medicine or feeding you, or helping you attend to a sick family member.

When you’re on a date, he’s the one who spends for everything, not you. And take the date as an opportunity to test how responsible he is as a man and an individual.

Even if he has enough or more than enough money, he should be a WISE SPENDER.

He won’t empty his wallet on items which are too expensive and extravagant for his and your financial status. He should have the maturity or wisdom to explain to you why, and the will or backbone to reject you whatever you say.

He’s turning you down not just because he wants to, but because HE’S SAVING for your future as a couple.

That’s not just a responsible guy. As we say in the vernacular, IYON ANG TUNAY NA LALAKI!

And as I’ve written in an earlier blog, the guy must respect you in every possible way, because respect is a part of responsibility in a relationship.

It’s the guy’s responsibility to treat you not just as a lover but also as a human being, especially in front of other people. The man’s role is to look after your well-being -- physically, mentally, emotionally, socially.

Not your humiliation and destruction.

Some will say that looks and brains, and financial stability, are also big factors to consider in entering into a relationship. I totally agree.

But think about this, girls: looks and brains are useless if your man does not know how to use and keep them, properly. Money will run out if he’s not responsible enough in handling it.

If this will be the case, what will you do? Where do you think will you end up?

Think about it. Think really hard about it. 30