PREGNANT BY BROD-IN-LAW!

For this piece, we give way to a problem from one of our friends from Makati, whom we shall call only as Janet:

Dear Mr. BA:

I am a 20-year-old coed from one of the top exclusive universities in the country. Please tell me what to do with my problem, which has been giving me sleepless nights for almost three weeks now.

I’ve just discovered that I am pregnant.  The bad news, it’s not by my boyfriend but by my brother-in-law.

It happened more than a month ago, when I went out with my brother-in-law to ease the overwhelming loneliness he was going through then. My sister, whose older than me,  has been working in the US for almost two years already.

Simply put, one drink led to another, my comforting hugs became tighter and tighter and before we knew it, we’ve done it. Now, I don’t know what to do.

The family is just waiting for a final date but my sister will definitely come home anytime in the next one month and-a-half for her mandatory leave from work.

My brother-in-law already knows the situation but he’s more confused than me. I haven’t told my parents, and my boyfriend, yet.

My sister is the one paying for my studies. And it gets worse: she hates my boyfriend to high heavens that I can’t expect any sympathy from her if I lie and tell her it’s my lover’s baby.

Please, sir, what shall I do? I’ m confused to the max and I know I’m in a no-win situation. Please. Thanks and more power.

MY COMMENT

Thank you for your trust, Janet.

Before anything else, don’t even think of aborting the baby. You’ll only sink deeper in sin before the eyes of Goc. And KARMA IS REAL. Believe me.

I agree with you that you’re in a no-way situation. So since your brother-in-law doesn’t seem t have enough guts to act on his own, start solving the problem by confessing to your parents.

Ask them to be the one to tell your sister, and to your siblings if you have any.  I strongly suggest that they reveal it to your sister ASAP before she comes home, to at least prepare her emotionally.

Be the one to reveal it to your boyfriend. All these will immensely lighten up your emotional burden.

Together with your parents, settle the score now, as in, with your brother-in-law. Whatever move he decides on, just besure he’ll support the baby once it comes out.  Consult a lawyer and start whatever paper work can be, or has to be, done. Now.

Art school, drop out or go on emergency leave if allowable as early as possible, to save you from humiliation once your tummy grows into full-blown pregnancy.

I strongly suggest that you go somewhere else too and stay there until you give birth. The farther, the better.

Stop drinking, and I mean not a drop of beer or liquor or wine, from now until the rest of your life. Quite obviously, you’re uncontrollable once drunk.

And lastly, and the moist important of all, PRAY! Ask God for forgiveness and guidance. He always listens. Believe me!  

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